“Will you get mad if…”
Words poured out of Asher’s mouth so easily when he checked in with his brother while they both drew a rainbow…
It’s these tiny moments in which I’m not using conflict resolution skills that bring fresh air into our home.
“I really like this Asher, it’s beautiful…” said Finn.
The house which was once a storm of little boy tantrums is now calm. Sip. Coffee. Reflection. Breathe. Peace.
“I’ll show you how to draw rain… But you can make it however you want Finn…”
What was once a argument is now a dance.
What changed? The sea was just swirling with “Stop it!!”, walls, and “if… then…” . It was a model of calm seas and changing of the storm windows to spring and summer screens.
While they screamed I kneeled down rubbed backs and said “Instead of stop we can ask how can I help?” and waited…. then I walked over to our house rules chalkboard and added two more:
quiet voices
ask “how can I help?”
This house without walls is our home.
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